I usually love her advice, but the one area she and I disagree on mightily is the level of blame/responsibility the third party should assume in a cheating situation. If the situation were, say, married man cheats on wife with Other Woman, she's more of the "Other Woman didn't break any promises to wife, Husband did, therefore Other Woman not responsible." I'm more in the "Husband MORE responsible, but if Other Woman knew Husband was married, Other Woman not off scot-free," camp. Basically, she says Other Woman isn't cheating. Which I guess technically, semantically is true, but it rankles me. Other Woman may not be "cheating" but she didn't behave admirably as a human being.
I'm with you on that. It's like a technicality. You might not be breaking a promise but you still kinda suck. But I think so many people have a tendency to blame The Other Person rather than blame The Cheater and her advice on that front sort of brings it back to the person who sucks most.
I'm with you on that. It's like a technicality. You might not be breaking a promise but you still kinda suck. But I think so many people have a tendency to blame The Other Person rather than blame The Cheater and her advice on that front sort of brings it back to the person who sucks most.
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ReplyDeleteMan, that's awesome. Sars gives good advice.
ReplyDeleteI usually love her advice, but the one area she and I disagree on mightily is the level of blame/responsibility the third party should assume in a cheating situation. If the situation were, say, married man cheats on wife with Other Woman, she's more of the "Other Woman didn't break any promises to wife, Husband did, therefore Other Woman not responsible." I'm more in the "Husband MORE responsible, but if Other Woman knew Husband was married, Other Woman not off scot-free," camp. Basically, she says Other Woman isn't cheating. Which I guess technically, semantically is true, but it rankles me. Other Woman may not be "cheating" but she didn't behave admirably as a human being.
ReplyDeleteI'm with you on that. It's like a technicality. You might not be breaking a promise but you still kinda suck. But I think so many people have a tendency to blame The Other Person rather than blame The Cheater and her advice on that front sort of brings it back to the person who sucks most.
ReplyDeleteI'm with you on that. It's like a technicality. You might not be breaking a promise but you still kinda suck. But I think so many people have a tendency to blame The Other Person rather than blame The Cheater and her advice on that front sort of brings it back to the person who sucks most.
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